I always feel a T.V show or book should move you in some way,make you feel or realize something or its failed its purpose,I felt a number of emotions whilst watching this show.
It wasn't 100% historically accurate & the charcters were to nice even the ones who came off nice but I think the mean charcters were as mean as they could have been made for a children's T.V show,I also loved how the bad charcters especially matron got slowly more & more evil as the series progressed,I also loved how the people around them kept trying to stop them or get them caught but failed until the very end when they all got what they deserved.
As you guys know I'm a sucker for a love story & even tho this show was made for kids I absolutely loved all the little pices of romance Harriet and Mithius waa the the cutest thing this was built up from all 3 series.by the end of series 3 you could definitely see how much they loved eachother. It was adorable to watch and I think for actors so young to pull that off was pretty amazing & I really hope we get to see more of this story when they arrive in New.York.
I also loved the romance between nurse Winterson & the constable which was a random love story but developed over a few episodes with them not being able to be together becuase of work so having to reject the other to the constable proposing & them finally getting to be together,I'm really hoping that in series 4 we get to actually see more of there relationship or maybe even to see them get married & raise a family.
Although I say all of this I wish Hetty & Vince got more of a storyline there was one episode where they had to work together started playing games in the flour. Vince then got Hetty a Dominoes set & they played together but Vince being Vince is messing with someone & it ends up in a fight but I think they should have maybe given it another few episodes after this one or started a storyline between them in a earlier sires,I'd love to maybe see them bump into eachother in later life & end up together,that could be intresting.
There were alot of individual storylines I enjoyed thought these 3 series so I'll start with series 1 & pick a few of my favrouites
The very 1st epiosode shows Mithius running away I thought this was done really well especially with the whole escape being planned & carried out then him coming back,this only being found out as someone had began stealing food,Gus made you feel so believable & I love how Mithius was so petrified he would do anything against his friends to keep anything else happening to him (getting any type of punishment) but soon realizes that he needs his friends & they need him.
I belive this is a important lesson because its teaching kids that you need to face up to your mistakes, not run away from them &also be prepared to face punishment,it also shows the importance of sticking up for your friends & standing your ground when you know somthing isn't right.
Another 1 of my favourite from series 1 was one where Eliza comes back & Hetty gets really upset because Jem has shared their secret squirrel house with her, also never mentioning her to Eliza so she gets really upset, her friends all help to get Jem to the hospital by sending a letter using invisible ink along with Eliza's letter, Jem then comes & tells Hetty that he hasn't forgotten her but never mentioned her to Eliza because he was still upset about her having to go back to the hospital,despite all this we only ever see Eliza
a handful of times when she juniors have to move into the seniors room, Eliza then loses all her friends as she keeps sucking up to Hetty & gets upset when Hetty keeps a letter from Jem from her.
I think this shows life from the perspective of a child with the elements of fun that Jem has given Eliza,it also gives us a insight into Jem's emotions about having to leave Hetty & Gideon as we get to see how he is clearly still upset & angry about it.
This also gets Hetty to open up about her past life with Jem & how for years she's been beliving that he's coming to save her,this has been the only thing keeping her going without that she gets so down,proving how powerful somones imagination or belief system can be I think this important to see because I think people forget that when things get hard people tend to make stuff up to keep themselves going. Allowing them to live lives that don't really exist.
I also loved the couple of episodes that ended series 1 with Hetty having to look after Charlotte, these couple of episodes showed you that even the rich & poor could/can have things in common & that everyone no matter who you are you are always need at least 1 friend, at the end of the series Hetty runs away to the circus to find Madame Adeline who she thinks is her mother but turns out not to be.
this shows Hetty at her most venerable as she really believes this lady is her mother then she realizes she isn’t & realizes the reality of her life ,this is interesting as she then has to figure out who she wants to be again, I think children need to hear/see this message on screen to make them realize that plans can change but that’s okay as even if it takes a while you can adjust & go along with them.
There is one episode where Matron brings back a girl she has sold because there has been a fire in the mill where she sold her.
Blanche (the girl from the mill) starts causing trouble amongst the other girls & also sucks up to matron alot, when she finally starts to fit in then her friend from the mill shows up & she has to help her escape, in the end they end up leaving together Blanche to go to work as a servant in a wealthy household & Jess (her friend) to go to a hostel for homeless girls, it was intresting to see this friendship along with the friendships that Blanche also managed to make during her time at the foundling hospital. It was also attention grabbing to see a dodgy Victorian deal as its probably not somthing that would come to mind as you think of the Victorian era so getting to see another part of Victorian history was a good history lesson
Another episode where we get to see what Matron is really like is the Jack in the box episode where she uses all the foundlings are slaves to make toys for a dodgy busniess so she can make some extra money, the paint starts to make the children sick so they sabotage the toys by cutting all the wires so they won’t pop up. Matron’s plan then ends with her getting no money (as she can’t sell the toys) Matron gets more evil throughout the series & by the end she tries to send Hetty to a mill telling her that she’s sending her to be with her mother. Hetty manages to escape & gets matron expossed for all her crimes. Matron manages to escape & Hetty goes into service in the Calendar household but she keeps a book containing all of Matron’s dodgy deals, of course Matron wants her book back which ends with the Calendars eldest daughter Emily being kidnapped. Emily has dressed up as a servant so she can go for a tutoring session as she wants to become a doctor when 2 boys working for Mr.Grace ( the man Matron does deals with) go to get the book, as they can’t find it they kidnap who they think is Hetty eventually Emily returns home safely and Matron & Mr. Grace get what they deserve. These storylines were some of the best as they show the sort of dodgy deals that would have taken place in Victorian London, the hardships of Victorian life factory life & show a handful of friendships,hard work,plots & people working together to make a difference.
One storyline I found the most interesting was the friendship with Hetty & Ida,Hetty only found out Ida was her mother after being put in the tench, Ida knew she wouldn’t be able to claim Hetty as she didn’t have a stable job or husband but seeing Hetty suffering so much made everything slip out,when Matron finds out Ida loses her job at the hospital,but Hetty is determined to find her so goes out looking whilst doing this she meets a flower seller named Sissy who she befriends & helps her sell her flowers. Before getting taken back to the foundling hospital by Miss.Smith.
Hetty's relationship with Ida was very intresting as Ida just started out as some random kitchen maid but as time grew on Hetty started to trust Ida more & more,ut was only because of Hetty being put in the tench that we discover who Ida really is,What I loved about this was that in a show that's based around these children having been given up as babies so there isn't really any family connections other than the ones Hetty has with Jem & Eliza but as for most of these children they know nothing of any family so to get to see Hetty & Ida's relationship develop was really intresting & touching. It also gave the show some wamth,I think this is really important because the show can be quite cold at times.
I also liked how the T.V show was in some ways very different from the books,in the books we only get to see Hetty & the girls lives throughout their time at the hospital although in some ways I wish the T.V show was the same to the books as I found Hetty's tales after she leaves the hospital very interesting as their was always alot going on & she was in a new setting almost every book. I'm not quite sure how her now being in one place with family will work as well although I would love to find out more about the Calandars as all we know so far is that they have lived in India & that they are rich so this needs elaborating on a bit, but there is something mysterious about the way they won't let Edwin leave the house & I think we need to find out what condition he has,I also think Emily Calendar wanting to become a doctor could potentially become a very interesting story especially if her parents allow her to follow it.
but I'm also hoping that the series wont completely revolve around the calendars or their household so much so that Hetty will get to see other parts of the country & maybe even, I'm also hoping that we maybe get to see her go back to her foster family or meet up with old friends/ acquaintances along the way.
Whilst watching series 4 I hope we somehow get to see some of the characters from the founding hospital,I also think it would be interesting if we got to see Walter & his dad reunite as they've already met once so they know who the other is or any foundings finding their parents or any other relations.
I hope you guys liked this review,I've now decided that I probably won't write anymore reviews for T.V shows that are over a series long & if I do I'll probably write them series by series as this took over a month to write & I nearly gave up on it more than once,but I really hope that if you read this far you enjoyed it especially as it took so long to write.
Tuesday 28 November 2017
Thursday 23 November 2017
Pain management
About a week ago I found myself giving advice on this to quite a few people,I'm not really sure why but I sow alot of IG stories of people saying they were having flare ups (I follow quite a few chronic ilness accounts) or in really bad pain. So of course I tried to advise them on what Iv'e found useful, I>http://www.aor.org.uk/home/what-is-reflexology used to spend alot of time in pain,I spent alot of time crying up at night in pain & although I still spend time in pain as its constantly there 24/7 with the occasional flare up its a lot more managable now.
I'm not sure if any of those people who I tried to advise took anything I said on board at all but after giving them advicw I wanted to write somthing to try to help anyone stuck where I was a couple of years ago,being in constant pain is 1 of the worst things you can ever experience so if I can help even one person ease there's I'll feel like I've done some good.
So heres a list of things Iv'e found useful: (i'll put study links or links for more information after I've written about how its helped me)
♡Ice ~ I lived on ice packs when I 1st started expirencing chronic pain,the only problem with ice packs is them being to cold or you having to hold them in place so it would be easier to find some sort of ice pack/product that you don't have to hold in place,I know alot of sports people have ice baths after injuries or even just after playing so if it works for minor pain/injuries its gonna work even better for higher levels of pain & its really worked for me
♡ Heat~ Heat patches or hot water bottles also work really well or do atleast for me,I'm not sure what makes the heat ease the pain (I should probably look into that) but take it from me it really does work.
> How to sucsessfully treat pain with hot & cold & what not to do (I didn't know some of this & Iv'e been using heat & ice for years so its defintly worth a read) https://www.healthline.com/health/chronic-pain/treating-pain-with-heat-and-cold
♡Reflexology ~ I'd describe this as foot masage,by massaging your feet the holistic therapist can then see what part of your body is hurting the most (every part of your foot connects to a part of your body) & by massaging that erea it somehow releases the pain from whatever part of your body hurting,It's really helped me because It gives me a heads up on what part of my body I need to focus on trying to move more. (on good days)
It has also amazing to be able to pin point the main cause of pain as I expirence so much of it but this gives me some sort of idea of what is causing what & of course having somone realese a bit the pain makes it alot easier to do things as I'm more able to move around & it also allows me to get better quality sleep as I'm not up during the night.
>http://www.aor.org.uk/home/what-is-reflexology
> A link to learn about other holistic treatments~
www.gemmaclare.com/what-is-holistic-therapy/health-benefits-of-holistic-therapy/
♡Reiki~ In a way is like hypnotitsm its based around the idea that the therapist can channel energy into the patient by simply touching or hovering thier hands over the patients body to activate natural healing processes whilst restoring physical & emotinal well being to that person, I belive this has had such a goid effect on me as it makes you calm & allows you to relax,taking your mind away from everything else going on around you/in your life.
>Reki explained better than I can:
http://www.reiki.org/faq/whatisreiki.html
> https://iarp.org/learn-about-reiki/
>https://www.reikiassociation.net/what-is-reiki.php
♡Oxygen therapy~ I can't begin to tell how much this has helped in my recovery before starting I was asleep most days I couldn't read or write,my life wasn't going anywhere about a year & 6 months later Iv'e taught myself how to read & write again,somthing I now do almost daily, I hardly nap in the day unless I'm having a off day or got a cold & the pain has lessend so much like I said I'm still in constant pain but as its less I can cope with it alot better, I'm also hardly ever awake at night in pain because its been reduced so much it allows me to sleep.
There's also been studies carried out that prove it can reverse the effects of a ilness which is defintly true in my case especially as my head is now clearer so I can do the things I used to love.
More about Oxygen treatment:
https://www.hyperbaricoxygentherapy.org.uk/what-is-hbot
♡ physio/movment~
I hate physio it's the worst thing ever & although its alot better now I still sometimes find myself crying after it,but I do know that without it I'd be in alot worse place as my joints would just seize up,as much as it hurts you need to keep moving otherwise the pain will get worse.
(don't need any links attached to this as it seems pretty obvious)
I'm not sure if any of those people who I tried to advise took anything I said on board at all but after giving them advicw I wanted to write somthing to try to help anyone stuck where I was a couple of years ago,being in constant pain is 1 of the worst things you can ever experience so if I can help even one person ease there's I'll feel like I've done some good.
So heres a list of things Iv'e found useful: (i'll put study links or links for more information after I've written about how its helped me)
♡Ice ~ I lived on ice packs when I 1st started expirencing chronic pain,the only problem with ice packs is them being to cold or you having to hold them in place so it would be easier to find some sort of ice pack/product that you don't have to hold in place,I know alot of sports people have ice baths after injuries or even just after playing so if it works for minor pain/injuries its gonna work even better for higher levels of pain & its really worked for me
♡ Heat~ Heat patches or hot water bottles also work really well or do atleast for me,I'm not sure what makes the heat ease the pain (I should probably look into that) but take it from me it really does work.
> How to sucsessfully treat pain with hot & cold & what not to do (I didn't know some of this & Iv'e been using heat & ice for years so its defintly worth a read) https://www.healthline.com/health/chronic-pain/treating-pain-with-heat-and-cold
♡Reflexology ~ I'd describe this as foot masage,by massaging your feet the holistic therapist can then see what part of your body is hurting the most (every part of your foot connects to a part of your body) & by massaging that erea it somehow releases the pain from whatever part of your body hurting,It's really helped me because It gives me a heads up on what part of my body I need to focus on trying to move more. (on good days)
It has also amazing to be able to pin point the main cause of pain as I expirence so much of it but this gives me some sort of idea of what is causing what & of course having somone realese a bit the pain makes it alot easier to do things as I'm more able to move around & it also allows me to get better quality sleep as I'm not up during the night.
>http://www.aor.org.uk/home/what-is-reflexology
> A link to learn about other holistic treatments~
www.gemmaclare.com/what-is-holistic-therapy/health-benefits-of-holistic-therapy/
♡Reiki~ In a way is like hypnotitsm its based around the idea that the therapist can channel energy into the patient by simply touching or hovering thier hands over the patients body to activate natural healing processes whilst restoring physical & emotinal well being to that person, I belive this has had such a goid effect on me as it makes you calm & allows you to relax,taking your mind away from everything else going on around you/in your life.
>Reki explained better than I can:
http://www.reiki.org/faq/whatisreiki.html
> https://iarp.org/learn-about-reiki/
>https://www.reikiassociation.net/what-is-reiki.php
♡Oxygen therapy~ I can't begin to tell how much this has helped in my recovery before starting I was asleep most days I couldn't read or write,my life wasn't going anywhere about a year & 6 months later Iv'e taught myself how to read & write again,somthing I now do almost daily, I hardly nap in the day unless I'm having a off day or got a cold & the pain has lessend so much like I said I'm still in constant pain but as its less I can cope with it alot better, I'm also hardly ever awake at night in pain because its been reduced so much it allows me to sleep.
There's also been studies carried out that prove it can reverse the effects of a ilness which is defintly true in my case especially as my head is now clearer so I can do the things I used to love.
More about Oxygen treatment:
https://www.hyperbaricoxygentherapy.org.uk/what-is-hbot
♡ physio/movment~
I hate physio it's the worst thing ever & although its alot better now I still sometimes find myself crying after it,but I do know that without it I'd be in alot worse place as my joints would just seize up,as much as it hurts you need to keep moving otherwise the pain will get worse.
(don't need any links attached to this as it seems pretty obvious)
Sunday 12 November 2017
Good Girls Revolt Review
Brief synopsis: A Amozon original series based on Lynn Povich's book & Set in 1969~1970, a group of women who work for a newspaper fight against sexual discrimination in a battle to become reporters.
One of the obvious that came to mind before I began to watch this was that there was gonna be a lot of women in unhappy marriages, using guys to get higher up jobs & basically just being slaves to them so I wasn't to surprised when one of the first scenes of episode one was a sex scene.
I'm gonna start off with characters & their back story's,what I liked & disliked about them as I feel this is a good place to start & with
l also break it up a bit.
Cindy: At 1st I thought Cindy was really dull but then as the episodes went on I realized that I could really relate to her,at the start of the series Cindy doesn't know who she I think deep down she knows what she wants but her husband's told her she has 1 year as a reporter for News of the week before the has to give it up to start raising a family,from the very start its clear to see she's not happy about this or anything surrounding her life. She then begins to make friends with Pati who helps her find true self also making her realize she wants more than just to raise a family,get old &die.
She becomes a lot more confident & begins to drink (a lot) ,start partying and also ends up having a affair with the photographer Ned. Cindy really believes that Ned loves her,after her husband finds out about the affair Ned takes her home as she has nowhere else to go but the best day he tells her that it was "just a bit of fun" & that he never really cared for her. Not gonna lie at this point I cried my eyes out & actually got quite angry. Cindy She then goes home & tries to fix her broken marriage. She ends up leaving Lenny for good after telling him about the law suit, Lenny (Cindy'husband) gets aggressive,abusive & violent leaving Cindy with a cut down her cheek.
What I liked about Cindy's character was how she discovered who she wanted to be then made a point of following it through,she starts to believe & stand up for herself,by doing this she gains a lot of respect,I think that sends out a important message about finding yourself,being who you wanna be & being resilient.
I also loved how we sow Cindy's venerable side especially with the affair all she wants is to feel loved & Ned is doing that she just presumes that he means it. I feel like a lot of people can relate to this but its also interesting to see someone in this situation,her reaction to this is to basically sob & get drunk but she also knows that she can go to Pati & that she's always got a genuine friend in her that she can go to with her full trust,she also knows that Pati is gonna give her full support as well as whatever else she needs
their friendship really shows how someone else can come into your life & help you realize what you want & what true friendship is by the always be there when you need someone to lean on.
Jane: I only started to like Jane probably halfway through the series or later,she was very stuck up, brought up by a rich family & would suck up to whoever was at the top but towards the end of the series much like Cindy she realizes what she wants . Jane breaks up with her boyfriend after she thinks he's taking to long to ask for her hand in marriage,she then also decides that she wants to become a writer & not just a reporter she finds out about the other girls plan to sue news of the week but decides to ask if she can write a article ,they steal her ideas but get another woman outside of the paper to write the article so she decides to join the other girls with the law suit.
Again this shows that you shouldn't just put up with something if you think its wrong & that you have to fight,Jane also comes out of her shell with the help of the other girls which again shows how much even one persons friendship can help someone grow.
Pati: Pati was my fave for day 1 it's always good to see a strong willed character, unlike the other 2 characters I've mentioned Pati knew right from the start what she wanted & that it was unfair that she couldn't have it.
In the very 1st episode we see Pati go completely out her way for a news story on a fight during a concert,with the help of the other girls Pati's research takes her to another state where she ends up interviewing a backing dancer & groupe.
Although Pati going out her way to
get good research for a article she fails
to tell her boyfriend this (who also works for the paper)
so he then just presumes she stood him up,Pati then confides in
Doug (her boyfriend) about her 18 year old sisters marriage as she thinks her sister is moving to quickly & doesn't want her sister to become a slave to a man meaning she won't be following her dreams. Pati tells him she thinks her sister is capable of a lot more than she is allowing herself to do. after processing everything,Doug then decides to break up with Pati telling her she's to complicated for him as she wants more than just being his wife. Doug & Pati's relationship has a lot of ups & downs mostly because Pati knows what she wants but Doug can't ever seem to be able to support her properly so they end up fighting & break up.
I think in a way he wants her to be like all the other girls because it would be easier for him but I think deep down he also wants to help her achieve her dreams but just can't bring himself to do it as doing so would also lose him a lot of friends,I think he also knows Pati is right but he's to stubborn & stuck in the past to admit what he knows.
Pati also has a fling with her boss Finn & at the end of the series runs to tell Finn about the law suit but spots the feminist article (the 1 Jane wanted to write) on the cover of the newspaper,realizing Finn & all the other men have gone completely against what she suggested she decides against it & goes back to the other girls.
Pati's character taught me a lot about belief,standing up for myself,working hard,knowing what I want & not giving up.
Although I loved the series I feel really annoyed that it didn't get picked up for another season & even more annoyed that it got left on a cliff hanger.
what I loved about this show the most was all the friendships,all the girls looking out for each other, standing up for themselves, realizing what they want,realizing what they don't want & being independent. I all the historical aspect but do also feel that some of the storylines could have been expanded on in more detail as I feel there was a lot of information that wasn't explained although I'm not sure if it just went over the top of my head of it it was down to it not being explained.
I feel like I should talk more about the men in this show but I think I've kind of said all I can say none of them really seemed to be in love with their wives\girlfriends as they were constantly having affairs for fun. They also seemed to be quite aggressive & angry quite a lot of the time especially after finding out about the law suit.
my fave man in this show would have to be Doug because I think his heart was in the right place I just think he was confused as to why Pati wouldn't just put up with it but he kept running back to her & had no other lover so he seems the most & only loyal guy in this show even tho he was a jerk most of the time.
This show also made me realize what I want,I've spent so long thinking that because I'm ill I'm capable of nothing & if I'm honest with you all (Idk how many people are gonna read this but you know..) I decided my entire adult life would be sitting at home all day waiting for a guy to come home from work,not actually doing or achieving anything.
I still want what I've wanted since being a kid I want to write,realizing this I got really upset because people aren't gonna wanna hire someone who's ill or likely to need time off as there is still probably going to be times where I am ill & can't do things.
I think that was because of the whole school situation,but then I realized that no company can really refuse to give me a job on those grounds because that's discrimination & I could sue.
I've spent the past few months completely confused about love because in my mind if I love someone they should love me (basically have the mind of a 5 year old) but I realized that I don't need someone to love people already do I don't need a bf I need a decent career which I will get if I work hard & try really hard to get better I thought all this was impossible but even if that means starting my own company or whatever I need to do I now think I can.
I wanna tell peoples stories, I want to move people or be able to make them smile or feel better & more than anything want to give sick people a voice & make sure they know there not alone. which is way more important
than what I thought was the most important thing ever, its not that comes later (if it ever does) this show made me realize what's important. this show taught me to believe in myself but most importantly of all to keep fighting for what's right even when other people don't believe in you.
One of the obvious that came to mind before I began to watch this was that there was gonna be a lot of women in unhappy marriages, using guys to get higher up jobs & basically just being slaves to them so I wasn't to surprised when one of the first scenes of episode one was a sex scene.
I'm gonna start off with characters & their back story's,what I liked & disliked about them as I feel this is a good place to start & with
l also break it up a bit.
Cindy: At 1st I thought Cindy was really dull but then as the episodes went on I realized that I could really relate to her,at the start of the series Cindy doesn't know who she I think deep down she knows what she wants but her husband's told her she has 1 year as a reporter for News of the week before the has to give it up to start raising a family,from the very start its clear to see she's not happy about this or anything surrounding her life. She then begins to make friends with Pati who helps her find true self also making her realize she wants more than just to raise a family,get old &die.
She becomes a lot more confident & begins to drink (a lot) ,start partying and also ends up having a affair with the photographer Ned. Cindy really believes that Ned loves her,after her husband finds out about the affair Ned takes her home as she has nowhere else to go but the best day he tells her that it was "just a bit of fun" & that he never really cared for her. Not gonna lie at this point I cried my eyes out & actually got quite angry. Cindy She then goes home & tries to fix her broken marriage. She ends up leaving Lenny for good after telling him about the law suit, Lenny (Cindy'husband) gets aggressive,abusive & violent leaving Cindy with a cut down her cheek.
What I liked about Cindy's character was how she discovered who she wanted to be then made a point of following it through,she starts to believe & stand up for herself,by doing this she gains a lot of respect,I think that sends out a important message about finding yourself,being who you wanna be & being resilient.
I also loved how we sow Cindy's venerable side especially with the affair all she wants is to feel loved & Ned is doing that she just presumes that he means it. I feel like a lot of people can relate to this but its also interesting to see someone in this situation,her reaction to this is to basically sob & get drunk but she also knows that she can go to Pati & that she's always got a genuine friend in her that she can go to with her full trust,she also knows that Pati is gonna give her full support as well as whatever else she needs
their friendship really shows how someone else can come into your life & help you realize what you want & what true friendship is by the always be there when you need someone to lean on.
Jane: I only started to like Jane probably halfway through the series or later,she was very stuck up, brought up by a rich family & would suck up to whoever was at the top but towards the end of the series much like Cindy she realizes what she wants . Jane breaks up with her boyfriend after she thinks he's taking to long to ask for her hand in marriage,she then also decides that she wants to become a writer & not just a reporter she finds out about the other girls plan to sue news of the week but decides to ask if she can write a article ,they steal her ideas but get another woman outside of the paper to write the article so she decides to join the other girls with the law suit.
Again this shows that you shouldn't just put up with something if you think its wrong & that you have to fight,Jane also comes out of her shell with the help of the other girls which again shows how much even one persons friendship can help someone grow.
Pati: Pati was my fave for day 1 it's always good to see a strong willed character, unlike the other 2 characters I've mentioned Pati knew right from the start what she wanted & that it was unfair that she couldn't have it.
In the very 1st episode we see Pati go completely out her way for a news story on a fight during a concert,with the help of the other girls Pati's research takes her to another state where she ends up interviewing a backing dancer & groupe.
Although Pati going out her way to
get good research for a article she fails
to tell her boyfriend this (who also works for the paper)
so he then just presumes she stood him up,Pati then confides in
Doug (her boyfriend) about her 18 year old sisters marriage as she thinks her sister is moving to quickly & doesn't want her sister to become a slave to a man meaning she won't be following her dreams. Pati tells him she thinks her sister is capable of a lot more than she is allowing herself to do. after processing everything,Doug then decides to break up with Pati telling her she's to complicated for him as she wants more than just being his wife. Doug & Pati's relationship has a lot of ups & downs mostly because Pati knows what she wants but Doug can't ever seem to be able to support her properly so they end up fighting & break up.
I think in a way he wants her to be like all the other girls because it would be easier for him but I think deep down he also wants to help her achieve her dreams but just can't bring himself to do it as doing so would also lose him a lot of friends,I think he also knows Pati is right but he's to stubborn & stuck in the past to admit what he knows.
Pati also has a fling with her boss Finn & at the end of the series runs to tell Finn about the law suit but spots the feminist article (the 1 Jane wanted to write) on the cover of the newspaper,realizing Finn & all the other men have gone completely against what she suggested she decides against it & goes back to the other girls.
Pati's character taught me a lot about belief,standing up for myself,working hard,knowing what I want & not giving up.
Although I loved the series I feel really annoyed that it didn't get picked up for another season & even more annoyed that it got left on a cliff hanger.
what I loved about this show the most was all the friendships,all the girls looking out for each other, standing up for themselves, realizing what they want,realizing what they don't want & being independent. I all the historical aspect but do also feel that some of the storylines could have been expanded on in more detail as I feel there was a lot of information that wasn't explained although I'm not sure if it just went over the top of my head of it it was down to it not being explained.
I feel like I should talk more about the men in this show but I think I've kind of said all I can say none of them really seemed to be in love with their wives\girlfriends as they were constantly having affairs for fun. They also seemed to be quite aggressive & angry quite a lot of the time especially after finding out about the law suit.
my fave man in this show would have to be Doug because I think his heart was in the right place I just think he was confused as to why Pati wouldn't just put up with it but he kept running back to her & had no other lover so he seems the most & only loyal guy in this show even tho he was a jerk most of the time.
This show also made me realize what I want,I've spent so long thinking that because I'm ill I'm capable of nothing & if I'm honest with you all (Idk how many people are gonna read this but you know..) I decided my entire adult life would be sitting at home all day waiting for a guy to come home from work,not actually doing or achieving anything.
I still want what I've wanted since being a kid I want to write,realizing this I got really upset because people aren't gonna wanna hire someone who's ill or likely to need time off as there is still probably going to be times where I am ill & can't do things.
I think that was because of the whole school situation,but then I realized that no company can really refuse to give me a job on those grounds because that's discrimination & I could sue.
I've spent the past few months completely confused about love because in my mind if I love someone they should love me (basically have the mind of a 5 year old) but I realized that I don't need someone to love people already do I don't need a bf I need a decent career which I will get if I work hard & try really hard to get better I thought all this was impossible but even if that means starting my own company or whatever I need to do I now think I can.
I wanna tell peoples stories, I want to move people or be able to make them smile or feel better & more than anything want to give sick people a voice & make sure they know there not alone. which is way more important
than what I thought was the most important thing ever, its not that comes later (if it ever does) this show made me realize what's important. this show taught me to believe in myself but most importantly of all to keep fighting for what's right even when other people don't believe in you.
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